Stress is a major component of many people’s lives today. Between finances, work and the pressures of society, stress can manifest in several ways every day. However, adding in the extra emotion of a poor relationship or a divorce can magnify your stress tenfold.
It’s no surprise that getting a divorce is a huge source of added stress in people’s lives, but why?
What is the root of stress?
According to Psychology Today, the source of stress is a sudden influx of hormones like adrenaline and cortisol which then stimulate quick action by increasing your heartbeat and blood flow. It can feel as though you’re on edge or anxious because it’s designed to help you take action if you’re in danger.
Going through an emotional trauma such as a divorce or other significant change can trigger these hormones leading to the feelings of anxiousness and dread associated with stress. While this response is designed to help you survive, when you’re not in a physically life-threatening situation, they aren’t very helpful. And since divorce can cause prolonged stress, these reactions can have a significant long-term negative effect on your well-being.
Why is divorce so stressful?
Going through a major emotional turmoil such as a divorce can cause these physical and mental reactions and it’s not hard to see why.
A divorce prompts multiple “unknowns” which can make you feel uneasy. From having to start over, make decisions about your finances and living arrangements and worrying about your children’s emotional health, it’s not surprising that divorce triggers a stress response
What can you do about it?
Fortunately, there are a few ways people can cope with stress that’s brought on by a divorce. Incorporating these practices into your life can help you manage stress and preserve your emotional health. Things such as:
- Regularly talking to friends or family
- Talking to a professional therapist
- Exercise regularly
- Focus on/picture the future
- Ask for and accept help
- Research the divorce process
- Find a creative outlet
While you may not be able to eliminate your stress altogether, you can take these steps to minimize or reduce it.