Social media during divorce

| Nov 26, 2018 | Uncategorized |

Social media is an everyday part of our lives. We share and post about everything–our triumphs and tragedies, our stories and complaints. We follow the daily happenings of hundreds of “friends”, many of whom we barely know. We follow our news sources and get the latest updates. For a lot of us, it’s our connection to the world.

And because it’s second nature, it may be tempting to share the details of your divorce. But posting information about your split on social media can have a downside and end up creating emotional damage. Sharing might also mean unintentionally communicating information with those you might otherwise avoid communicating with, such as your ex or mutual friends. Practice restraint, as hard as it may be.

Posting about your divorce can have serious consequences, so you’ll want to proceed with caution before choosing to post on social media:

  • Be aware of the emotional damage you may cause to yourself and others by oversharing. Think of those who might read your posts including family members, shared friends and your kids if they’re old enough. It may be hard to fix the harm caused by hurtful words once they’re posted.
  • Avoid jeopardizing your settlements by posting about your expensive vacations or elaborate partying. What’s posted on social media could be used against you and ultimately hurt you in your divorce proceedings.
  • Don’t post anything you wouldn’t want to remain online permanently. It feels good in the moment to vent about your break up, but the information is hard to remove once it’s out there. It might be better to share with a friend face-to-face.
  • Choose the high ground and avoid trashing your ex online. As tempting as it may be, practicing compassion will be more beneficial for the long run.
  • Most of what’s on social media is selectively positive. Comparing your situation with those of others can be hurtful, especially when you’re in the midst of a divorce, so try to limit your time scrolling through the posts of others.


Think twice before posting to social media to protect yourself and those around you and try to limit your time on social media. Choosing the high road during divorce will help to minimize the emotional damage and ultimately provide for the best possible outcome.